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How to give a 'hand job'

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Almost all males enjoy being masturbated by their partner - it feels quite different from when they do it for themselves and also quite different from Oral Sex or intercourse. Sometimes, too, masturbation is a preferred option for sexual activity - it has two particular advantages:

  • It can be quick yet still immensely satisfying
  • It is possible to do it with less privacy than might otherwise be needed

The female who learns to do this well will always have a way of pleasing her man when she is not truly 'in the mood' for sexual activity of her own - and a way of arousing him, of 'getting him going' when he might not be as 'ready' as she would like him to be!

There are a huge number of techniques that are effective and some of the best and most exciting are shown here. Although it is not essential, the use of a lubricant of some sort will be more exciting for him but remember that baby oil and condoms are not a good match if you progress from masturbation to sexual intercourse.

Six Good Hand Job Techniques

Endless Vagina
Be sure to have well-oiled hands for this one - it can be uncomfortable for him otherwise, instead of ecstatically enjoyable as it is intended to be. Curl your hand around the end of the penis, not too tightly at first but firmly enough that you can feel the hardness. Slide your hand down the penis shaft and just before the glans appears on the other side of your fist, bring the other hand in place over the top of it to repeat the process… the first hand will continue to slide all the way to the bottom of the penis. This feels to him as if he is penetrating an endless vagina… he won't last long!

Head Stroke
Again, very oily hands are called for here. Hold his penis in one hand and using the palm of the other hand (again well-oiled) slowly and gently massage the head of the penis in a circular direction - it doesn't really matter which way but reverse direction every now and again.

Shaft Stroke
This one can be a real tease! Stroke just the shaft of the penis moving from the bas up to the ridge of the glans but not going on to the glans head. After a little time you will see that the glans will swell and may become purple as he becomes more and more aroused and engorged. At that point, changing to the Head Stroke or Endless Vagina will send him wild with pleasure!

Cup and Stroke
With his penis lying back along his stomach, cup his testicles gently in your other hand; now stroke the palm of your free hand up and down the underside of his penis using a 'gliding' motion. This one is actually slightly better with no lubricant.

Double Handed
Another one for very oily hands. Hold his penis shaft in both hands firmly along his length so that you are doling as much of it as you gain in both hands. Move both hands up and down, being guided by him as far as speed is concerned - some men like it fast, others like it slow and sensual. Keep your grip firm enough that he feels as if he is inside a tight vagina.

Penetration Repeat
Make a circle shape with your thumb and forefinger, small enough that his penis won't go through it. Place this over the glans and let him push his way in, relaxing the circle as he does so, so that he feels that he is penetrating you. Now slide the circle all the way down to the base of the penis then back up to the top, closing the circle a little as you get past the ridge of the glans; let him push his way in again and repeat. An oily hand is probably best, though some males, especially if they are circumcised, might prefer the extra friction that comes if the hand if the hand is dry - but in this case, be gentle!

© Copyright Terence Watts 2006


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